Dear Annie,

Ona as a guest blogger!  Way to go!  I love your story about Sally, Ona -- proving once again what we already know: we have yet another excellent teacher in the family.

I'm quite fond of The Dot, which Ona mentioned, and Peter Reynolds' sequel,
Ish.  In Ish, a boy who loves to draw is ridiculed by his older brother -- "WHAT is THAT?" he laughs, pointing at Ramon's attempt to draw a vase of flowers.  This kills Ramon's joy in art: he keeps starting pictures and then crumpling them up.  He then discovers that his little sister has been rescuing the drawings, flattening them, and displaying them on her walls because she likes them.  When he tells her one drawing was supposed to be a vase, she says it's "vase-ish."  The concept of -ish frees him to enjoy his art again.

I was also pleasantly surprised to find a book by JoAnn Deak in Ona's list.  She's written two books for adults: How Girls Thrive and Girls Will Be Girls: Raising Confident and Courageous Daughters.  She makes a point that about 80% of each gender conforms to what we think of as stereotypical boy or girl behavior -- and about 20% don't.  For every four girls whose parents say, "We gave her a truck and she gave it a name and tucked it into her doll bed," there's one who says, "Vroom vroom," and pushes it across the floor.  I find this a helpful concept in the unending debate about boy stuff/girl stuff.  (Nice piece on same here.)  She's not saying that 80% of girls want to be exclusively pink princesses, but that certain forms of play are more common in different genders.

It was so lovely to see you and your amazing daughters (who were busy building the Brooklyn-Battery Tunnel with Magna-Tiles and sending cars through it) over the weekend.  And the most amazing part of all was listening to Eleanor reading books to us.  She did an excellent rendition of We're Going on a Bear Hunt, complete with inflection that would make a middle-schooler proud.  Given all the great readings she's listened to from her parents I suppose it's no surprise.  But it's certainly impressive.

Love,

Deborah

Guest blogger: Making Mistakes

Dear Aunt Debbie,

I hope you're right this year!  I've certainly agreed with your votes before, over the official committees'.

I'm still knee-deep in portfolios, so I've asked another family member to be our next guest blogger: my cousin, and your niece, Ona, who teaches kindergarten in Seattle.  Here she is, in the first of what I hope will be many guest blogger appearances:

Making Mistakes

Much of my year as a kindergarten teacher is spent on life lessons. My hope is to impart these lessons in a fun way-- and at times these ideas outweigh the academic material.  One such lesson is that the brain needs to explore, try new things and make mistakes. Every day I point out to my students mistakes that I have made, as well as complimenting them on catching them, "Wow, you have sharp eyes that you caught my mistake." (Adults: check out the awesome book Brain Rules, by John Medina-- highly recommended for teachers and parents alike!) 

Making mistakes is a fresh topic in my mind this year as I have a perfectionist in my class. I will call her "Sally." I can relate to Sally as I have similar traits so I have even more of a vested interest while working with her. Sally becomes so frustrated if her work is not "perfect" that she will cry or just give up. I found out at our recent parent teacher conferences that Sally's mother regularly scans and photoshops her "mistakes" and prints off a new page so her daughter can have it "just the way she wanted." After her mom told me this, she asked me, "Is that too much?"

I offered the following books:

Your Fantastic, Elastic Brain: Stretch It, Shape It by JoAnn Deak Ph.D. and illustrated by Sarah Ackerley is a kid-friendly version of Brain Rules [Annie's note: it seems to be out of print, and the Alibris link above links only to pricey versions.  Try the library?]. With cartoon-like images, it alternates from simple ideas and language, to a specific explanation of how the brain and its various parts function. The most important take away is that it is crucial for your brain to make mistakes so it can learn. Deak provides an example of jumping into a swimming pool. If this is the first jump, the signals from your brain might make you feel nervous or scared. Once you jump, the brain can remember the sensations it felt and the experience becomes less daunting the second time around. During ages 0-10 the brain grows and learns the most.  The more things you try and the more mistakes you make, the better! Cool lesson for kids, right?


Another fantastic exploration into making mistakes is the artistic book, The Dot, by Peter H. Reynolds. A little girl, Vashti, is asked to draw and is so worried about how to draw that she is frozen, as Reynolds says "glued to her seat." "I just CAN'T draw!" is a frequent line in the beginning of the book, a line I hear in my classroom too. Vashti's teacher says, "Just make your mark and see where it takes you." What a beautiful message-- this encourages Vashti to try by drawing a simple dot, and the more she does the more confident she becomes. At the end of the story Vashti teaches another student to “make your mark.”

Another way of helping kids become unglued from their seats is to provide a structure as a starting-off point.
I Can Draw People and I Can Draw Animals, by Ray Gibson, are from a series that I often use in my classroom. The books offer a step-by-step take on drawing and each page has numbered directions: Step 1, Step 2 and Step 3. Children follow the shapes that are drawn in each step, thereby adding another detail to their picture. This is a beauty of this series as reading is not necessary, just copying the steps. The scaffolding that this provides helps those kids who say, "I can't draw" start with the most basic shapes and at the end discover they have drawn an angel or a giant or a lion!

Sally is becoming like Vashti. Last week she came up to me during art class and was beaming. She proudly told me that she had made a mistake and figured out how to fix it-- all by herself! I asked Sally if she cried or got upset and quit, and with a big smile she said, "Nope!" What a teachable moment this was-- Sally  felt the joy of overcoming a difficulty and she made her mark. I hope that these selections help you and yours do the same.

Love, Ona

And love from me, 

Annie